Great instruction book on how to be a mindless doormat
I bought this book thinking that it would provide some realistic advice about what a woman can do to improve her marital relationship with her husband. I hardly realized that Schlessinger would put 150% of the responsibility on the wife! The premise of "Dr" Laura's book is simple: Your husband's needs are important. Yours aren't. Your husband must be completely satisifed and happy at all times. You should not expect to be completely satisified and happy at all times since that makes you selfish. Your husband's criticism should be accepted graciously. You should never, however, criticize him. Take his advice appreciately. Do not give him advice. When it comes to sex, it's his show. He's the Director, you're just an actor. Sex is for him, when he wants it, if he wants it, as he wants it. Your sexual needs or desire are not, nor should they ever be, considerations on his part. If you have kids, you have him to thank. When it comes to their care, the kids are yours. When it comes to their accomplishments, the kids are his. You must lavish constant compliments upon him for every thing he does. You must show your undying devotion and appreciation by keeping your mouth shut when he disappoints you, going to events that you don't enjoy, and by entertaining his friends that you don't like. He, on the other hand, can forget your anniversary, your birthday or what time to pick you up from an appointment. If he doesn't surprise you with flowers, don't be sad. Remember, he mowed the lawn for you...that's recognition enough. If he cheats on you or beats you, it's your fault. You had it coming because you either married a jerk to begin with or you failed to be completely submissive to his every whim and desire.
Get real. Schlessinger isn't even a "Dr"; psychiatrist or psychologist. Her own marriage is the result of an adulterous affair. Her kid bears HER last name, not her husband's. Her husband manages her business and he does all the cooking at home.
If you're going to take advice from someone, at least take it from someone who walks the walk when they talk the talk. Better, take it from someone who has something positive to say about the wife's contribution to the marriage. Schlessinger's book gives women plenty of reasons to stay single. Worse yet, she portrays men as selfish, self centered, instinct driven, brainless morons. Most of us know better. Way better.....Read full review
