Bought this because I have 2 children with RAD so read all I can get on it- couldn't even get through it because the whole thing is so ridiculous- basic premise seems to be that if you have kids with RAD and their behaviors upset you you need to go get therapy to deal with your own unresolved issues from childhood that are causing you to lose patience with their lying, stealing, intentionally urinating and defecating on things, etc- because they are just acting out of fear and you should be able to be completely calm and understanding about that....Later read that "dr" post bought his PhD at a diploma mill and is generally a questionable character. So my recommendation is find a good therapist and read lots of OTHER books on RAD if you want real help.
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This book is one of the definitive works on parenting traumatized children. These would be children whose behavior goes way beyond 'bratty' behavior. If you have a child who's been diagnosed with anything like Reactive Attachment Disorder, Attachment Disorder, Oppositional Defiant Disorder, ADHD, anything like that, I highly recommend this book. If you are the parent of a child that you adopted from the foster care system or from a foreign country and you can't figure out why your child is behaving the way that he or she does, you need this book. What I like about this approach is that first, they explain to you why your children are the way they are. They let you know that your child's misbehavior, their tendencies to do things that you just don't understand, are not born of evil intentions on the child's part. They let you know that the he** you've been going through isn't because your child is inherently bad. And that is such a relief! Because once you know this, you know there is hope for your child and for you as their parent. After the explain to you why your child is how he or she is, they provide strategies on how to deal with seven very common behavioral issues that children of trauma often exhibit. Their strategies are very calm, cool, and collected. I have used some of these and the result was less stress for me and less stress for my child. I decided to buy this book after reading many, many positive reviews of the book from parents of attachment-disordered children through list-servs that I am on. If you are the parent of an attachment-disordered or a traumatized child, you need this book but please remember that you also need support. I'm so thankful that this book exists. It's worth every penny.Read full review
This book ended up NOT helping us and causing more issues than anything. It blames the parent for the mental issues and not the adopted child who has all the issues. It will literally make the struggling parent feel guilt and blame for all the adopted child's trauma/drama. We kept our adopted sone 2 and a half years because of this book, doing everything it instructed.......and then it was to the point because of this book I became co-dependant on this child who now at the age of 5 had envisioned a plan to KILL us. DO NOT buy this book, it is NOT worth it. We ended up re-homing our son and it was the BEST choice in the world, he is doing great, he bonded with his new mum and is flourishing. As well as my other 5 children are now safe!
This book has opened my eyes to the correlation between trauma, parenting, and how to manage a child with mood disorders.
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This is one of many copies of this book I have purchased for parents and colleagues. Great for guiding parents in parenting children with Reactive Attachment Disorder. Gently guides without blame or shame, assists the parents in identifying who is responsible for the behavior and allowing the child to take ownership of the behavior, it demonstrates parenting with love.
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